Alright, so I’m a hypocrite…ya’ happy now?!?

My friend Shara Lyn just moved to Haiti.  She’s officially a missionary now.  You should probably read her blog if you get a chance.  (And seriously…if you’re reading MY blog, you’ve GOT the time.)

I’ve known Shara Lyn since…what?  Fourth grade?  Fifth?  I don’t even remember anymore.  Short version is that we’re both getting old at the same time.  She is two months older than I am and still looks great.  I look like I should front a Neil Young cover band.  She wins.

I’ve known for a couple of months (since roughly when the Haitian earthquake that you haven’t heard anything about in the news lately happened—funny how time and public interest stories fly, huh?) that Shara Lyn was going to go to Haiti.  This isn’t one of those sad, sappy posts where I talk about missing my friend.  I mean, yeah…there’s some of that…but she lived in Indiana anyway, so it’s not like we saw each other every day.  With the advent of the Internet, the main way our relationship has changed is that her Facebook pictures are probably about to get a lot more scenic.

So what IS this post about?

It’s about money.

I’ll give you a second to recover from that wild left-turn.

…annnnnd we’re back.

Okay.  A lot of my readers (if any) probably have no idea how being a missionary works.  When someone makes the commitment to be a missionary, at least 99% of the time, it takes roughly the form of them getting the adequate passports, possibly work-visas (depending on the country, I think), etc, etc…a lot of the same stuff you’ve got to have in line for a vacation, but more serious than that.  That much, you probably already knew.  But, a missionary also needs to raise support money.  Rarely does a missionary move to a new country and receive payment directly from the church or organization that they work with while there.  A lot of people assume that’s how it works.  But missionaries actually go from church to church, friend to friend, and family member to family member asking for money, hoping that enough people sign up for recurring contributions to afford them a livable salary.  Some of them do very well.  Some scrape by, if they make it at all.  It’s a pretty big leap of faith.

Shara Lyn sent me a support letter.  I actually double-checked to make sure she was going to, because I was anxious to give.  As those who regularly read this blog (hi Dad) will know, I give a crap about Haiti and donated some money to one cause or another during the earthquake fallout (a lot of which is still going on, by the way).  When I heard that Shara Lyn was going to move there, I thought it was awesome and had every intention of sending a regular donation her way, thinking it was wonderful that not only do I get to send my money, I also get to send one of my oldest friends, who has had a profoundly, unspeakably huge impact on my own life and who I know will help to change the lives of others as well.

Shara’s support letter is STILL sitting in my briefcase.  I look at it pretty close to every day.  I have donated nothing.

I had been convincing myself that I didn’t have enough money to give a decent-sized one-time gift, or enough security to give a recurring gift.  Some of that, to be fair, is justified due to a few of the recent shake-ups in the insurance industry.  Pretty much everyone in my industry is packing some cash away for a rainy day, and my office is certainly no exception…  But then there’s me…I started a podcast about how much money I spend on crap.  I’d actually convinced myself that I didn’t have the money to give to a GOOD cause…yet I’ve got a copy of the first issue of the Darkwing Duck comic book re-launch less than 10 feet from me right now.

Can’t explain how much I feel like a complete dick right about now.

Short version is, I’ve been a complete hypocrite with my money on this one.  I HAVE the “expendable” income to throw a couple of bucks to a cause I believe in…  It might not be a recurring gift, but I can donate at LEAST randomly.  Or once.  Or something.  Someone I care about moved to a whole other country with a whole other language (with whole other cases of random civil and economic unrest, no less) to give everything she could to make the world a better place—and I know she’s going to be successful.  I didn’t give $20 damn dollars to help her do it.

I plan on changing that.  I think I’m going to have to wait until my next paycheck in a couple of weeks (this one gets pretty much eaten up by rent and by a credit-card payment, or I’d do it right now)…but I’m going to give SOMETHING.  This is a good cause—certainly better than the cause of fake truth and justice for which Batman fights in the most recent issue—and I can and should give SOMETHING to that.

If you’d like to do that, too.  You can click here (this is the group Shara Lyn’s working with) and click around to find options for donations—or they accept monetary donations to AHBZ, P.O. Box 45298, St. Louis, MO 63145.  They’re good people.  I actually know some of them.

The point is…if you’re as big a douche as I am…  Stop it.


Quick bit of “other” news…  A guy I knew in college called today to ask me to be his bass player in his band that he describes as being influenced by Pearl Jam.  Considering it.

2 thoughts on “Alright, so I’m a hypocrite…ya’ happy now?!?”

  1. Derek – we’ve known each other since the 6th grade. Thought I’d clear that up. NOW…
    Thank you for this honest, gut-wrenching post. Not many people would be able to admit that about themselves. I appreciate your honesty. If God is leading you to give, please give! There is so much work to do. But you know I want your prayers, friendship, and encouragement more than anything.
    On a side note, I love your blog. You are such a good writer!

    1. Thanks so much for the comment!

      You’ve definitely GOT my prayers, friendship, and encouragement. I know you’re going to change and save lives and you’re going to be amazing at it. I believe that you’ve got all the potential in the world, and I’m so proud that you’re willing and brave enough to live up to it.

      I promise, promise, PROMISE that I’m going to write a check when I get my next payceck (the 15th-ish…sometimes my back delays my deposits for some reason…). I’m embarassed that it’s taken me this long. To be fair, April and May were ridiculously expensive months for me…but the future looks if not bright, at least manageable. 🙂

      Thanks again for commenting and I’m glad you’re blogging!

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